The year has just begun and you may have a list of resolutions you’ve already set. The question is, do you really need them? For many people, setting resolutions for the new year is little more than a tradition they participate in. It might feel good at the moment – especially when you are caught up in the wave of “New Year, New Me” excitement.
But the truth is, the new year rolls around and you remain the same old you, with the same quirks and beliefs. And you know what? That’s okay. You have a uniqueness about you that you shouldn’t try to force into a box with resolutions you don’t actually believe in.
Studies have shown that approximately 80% of new year’s resolutions fail by the second week of February.
So again, do you really need new year’s resolutions?
Short answer: no, you don’t.
Why, you may ask.
Well, let’s find out, shall we?
Too Much Self-Criticism
The first reason you don’t need new year’s resolutions is that they are prime ground for crippling self-criticism. Read more about happy new year wishes 2022
In my article the 3 Differences Between Resolutions and Intentions, I mentioned how resolutions are a corrective measure. This means you have to focus on every negative thing about you then see how you can resolve the issue. The result? You beat yourself up way too hard.
Giving too much attention to the things we do wrong is not a healthy way of life. In fact, an article by Good Therpay states that excessive self-criticism can have adverse effects on our mental health, including feelings of worthlessness, depression and body image issues. Imagine kick-starting your year with this kind of weight on your shoulders.
And because the resolutions have an enormous chance of failing, by the time February – March rolls around and you have resigned to the fact that another year will go by and you still haven’t succeeded with your resolutions, you will likely develop negative thoughts that make you feel like a total failure.
Self-criticism is important for cultivating perspective and humility, but it should never be allowed to grow to an extent where it gets in the way of your health or your progress in life. And if new year’s resolutions make you criticize yourself too much, then you really don’t need them.
No Room for Mistakes
Another reason you don’t need new year’s resolutions is that they are often inflexible. People usually put more than one resolution on their list because they want to fix everything, they feel is wrong with their current life all at once. As you can imagine, this can quickly become overwhelming.
Suppose you miss a day of exercise or your water-drinking reminder pops up at the most inconvenient time. Already, you would have fallen behind on one resolution, and in trying to claw your way back on track, other resolutions fall through the cracks.